Susan Taylor

Feeling “unsafe”, committed seeking is the answer…

susan taylor — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 06:26:12 +0000

Three Kinds of Feeling Unsafe
Karl Humiston
www.HumistonWellness.com
[3 Sep 2011]

Some of the ways we wish to guide people require their feeling safe, and we can’t get them to go there when they feel unsafe. Sometimes we can better help them with this when we know what kind of “unsafe” they are stuck in.

The most easily understood “feeling unsafe” means fear of hurt or harm to oneself, commonly from another person who is perceived as threatening, abusive, etc. This focus is on what someone or something external may do to one.

A deeper level of personal difficulties arises from the kind of “feeling unsafe” that means fear that one will harm someone else. This focus is on what one might do to someone else who is perceived as weak, fragile, vulnerable, or easily hurt.

Third is the “feeling unsafe” that means fear of losing control of inward feeling so that some defined or undefined disaster will result. This focus is on maintaining a sense of control by blocking or shutting out feeling from bodily consciousness.

What does not help is talking that seeks to help one understand the psychology of the problem. These problems function swiftly without consciousness, like a knee jerk reflex, and are fundamentally neurological in nature, not psychological.

Experience tells us that all three kinds of “feeling unsafe” can be helped at times by the simple felt presence of another human being who feels safe. Elements of that person’s feeling safe include strength, balance, awareness and attentiveness. The key ingredient for both persons in such a healing relationship is committed seeking.

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Free Workshops

susan taylor — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 21:40:51 +0000

We’ve got our schedule up for April and May. Our speakers this month have some powerful information to share with us. We invite professional experienced health practitioners to come and share their years of experience and knowledge. Come join us! The Chemistry of Addiction, Editing Your Life, Meridian 101, Cranial Sacral 101…

The Chemistry of Addiction April 19th, 7pm – Aneladee Milne

Addiction is not just a mental challenge or matter of lack of will-power. There is chemical reaction going on in your brain. Come join us for a night of exploring the chemical process of addiction and how to break it. Aneladee primarily works with those struggling with sexual addiction and has seen phenomenal success.

Life Bard- Editing Your Life May 8th, 7pm – Stephanie Servoss
Think of your favorite movies and stories…what do they have in common with your life? Nothing, you answer? Are you ready to change that? Come discover life changing tools for; understanding the character you play, editing your own life, authoring the story you want to live- NOW and uniting heart, mind, body and soul by living your purpose

Meridian Energizing and Balancing May 17th, 7pm – Melanie Lake
Join us as we explore the 5000 year old meridian system and learn how to help qi move freely and bring life giving energy to your body. Meridians are pathways in the body through which qi (chi) flows. If the life energy, becomes blocked it may drastically change a person’s vitality as well as have effects on organs, tissues and stress levels. Learn a quick tool for balancing your meridian system daily for good health.

Introduction to Cranial Sacral Therapy May 31th, 7pm – Heidi Allan
Come join us for a night of insight into better understanding what Cranial Sacral Therapy is and how it can heal your body. Come learn about the chakras how they relate to your body. Discover the power of muscle test- ing and how to use it properly and effectively.

All workshops will take place at Living Equilibrium located at 861 E Millbrook Way Bountiful UT 84010. Registration is not required but space is limited so pre-register at www.LivingEquilibrium. com to ensure a seat. For questions call us at 801-294-4369

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What A Woman Wants!

susan taylor — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 06:14:42 +0000

Come visit us at What A Woman Wants in Sandy on April 13th and 14th! Free tickets available, message or text us and we will send them out to you! Info@LivingEquilibrium. 801-497-1131.

Join us for: A sample foot zone, A mini Vortex Rotary Chair session and if you like us on Facebook you will receive a free sample of LeGoodNite essential oil, also enter to win a KINDLE! Come join the fun!

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Autism: Out of options? Willing to play with me?

susan taylor — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 22:14:15 +0000

Through the Vortex and Vo-Cal chair we have been seeing some amazing results with clients with Bi-polar disorder, brain damage, ADD, hyperactivity, depression and anxiety just to name a few. This isn’t a quick fix or a pill. It is completely non-invasive, non medical and 100 percent complimentary to any medication or form of therapy a client is utilizing. Clients have been reporting:

Stabilized moods
Greatly diminished or non-existant anxiety attacks
More confidence
Less argumentative/ defensive
Improved memory
Clear head- clear thinking
Feeling of hope
Perception shifts
Greater ability to communicate
Greater over-all sense of well being

After studying up on Autism I am interested to see the impact of these devices on this condition. There are dozens and dozens of studies reporting benefits of magnetic therapies on a wide variety of brain disorders or disease. Our clients are reporting many benefits outside of what is listed above.

Here is what I’m proposing. I would like 5 people to “play” with with us. We would like to see if the improvements with autistic clients merits a full study.

Our office is a calm, quiet place. Our practitioners have worked with clients one on one for a combined total of about 50 years:) I would like to work with 5 individuals with autism. If your interest is peaked or if you are just desperate enough to consider this idea, give us a call. I have information I can send you and you can come in for a consultation to see if this is something that might help your child or if it something they can even tolerate.

We want this for our own experience and we will perform this “play” free to you. We won’t charge you but I guess it isn’t really free. What we are looking for is a parent who is aware of the subtleties of their child’s behaviors and abilities, will communicate changes to us (fill out a form at each appointment) and will consistently bring them to their appointments. The appointments will be once OR twice a week (1 hour or 2 depending on your child’s symptoms and ability to sit through appointments). We will personalize it to your child. I would prefer clients live within 20 minutes of our office to minimize hardship and possible drop out. We are limiting this to 5 at this time.

To find out more about our technology you can go to the science page on this blog. For more information or if you have questions, call our Living Equilibrium office at 801-294-4369 or text me (susan) at 801-497-1131.

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The Boss is Away! Lets Play!

susan taylor — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 05:58:51 +0000

Guess what? The boss is away and the practitioners MUST PLAY! We have a goal to get as many people to experience this awesome technology as possible in the next 2 weeks. This special is available only until Monday night (Monday September 5th). Follow this link to the paypal button, you won’t be sorry!

Call us crazy but here it is….

For the next 2 days we are giving away (almost) both a Vortex and a Vo-Cal session for….$20! Twenty bucks! For those of you who know this technology, you know this is a steal. This is $100.00 worth of pure heaven and awesome growth.
Here is the catch....this is one set of sessions per person...Aw, I know BUT, the great news is that you can share this great deal with up to 2 friends or family for this crazy price! Limit 1 set of sessions per person, THEY MUST BE PAID FOR IN ADVANCE and these discounted sessions must be booked within the next 14 days ... this purchase is non-refundable but it is transferrable to another individual if you cannot make your scheduled appointment.

Yes, lets play!

Bonus Freebie!!!!! If you post this crazy deal on your Facebook wall and tag Yolaunda Keith, Tatiana Milne or Susan Taylor, you will get an additional bonus!

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Who Controls You?

susan taylor — Tue, 17 May 2011 18:50:58 +0000

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Blinders or Freedom? You have a choice.

susan taylor — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 06:12:15 +0000

During a session I had a most intriguing conversation with a client about agency and freedom. The gist of it is this… is it possible that we really HAVE a CHOICE if we can’t see any other options? Do we have a choice if we aren’t aware there is any other way to be. Since I was young I have heard and found myself saying that if my life is a certain way then it is because I chose it. On some level, conscious, subconscious, emotional level, I chose this situation. I chose the life I lead and who I am. This is all well and good when I like what I’m experiencing or who I am but what about when I have tried for decades to change traits that cause pain to myself and others and I just can’t do it? Regardless of the cost, I couldn’t seem to break out of the cycle or pattern.

I read constantly, I take classes, I learn from the best of the best. I love learning and I have the ability to sort truth and find powerful tools. Even with this ability, I still found myself stuck. How can that be? Problem + desire + proper tool + applying proper tool = fixed problem. Right? Not always. What do I do when every avenue I pursue to change a situation leaves me with the same problem?

Most of us have no problem wrapping our brain around the idea that we share genetic patterns with our predecessors. My eyes are clearly my mothers, my skin too. I look like my mom. My daughters look like me. It seems to be more difficult though for people to accept that along with the physical characteristic come other often less visible traits and similarities. Patterns of thinking and behaving, even patterned emotional response under particular circumstances, people or stress.

ONE of my simplest testimonials about genetic patterning is from 2007 when I was experiencing extreme insomnia. I had experienced an inability to sleep at various stages of pregnancy but never as a long term way of being until 2007/2008. I spent so many nights frustrated by my lack of sleep, and so many days unable to function properly because of lack of sleep. I would drop off at about 4:30 in the morning, if I tried to lay in bed, I would just become irritable and agitated. Sleep would not come. I took up working on websites into the wee hours of the morning. I figured I may as well do something productive with my time so I learned how and built them and maintained them for clients. A mother who isn’t sleeping is not a happy mother, my children were feeling the effects of an exhausted mother.

I didn’t go looking for help for my insomnia. It never occurred to me that I had a choice other than sleeping pills. It was a happy accident that I was introduced to a technology that would cure my insomnia. I don’t really believe in happy accidents, I know I was guided to this technology, Voice Remapping is the tool that has helped me discover freedom. It has become part of my mission. It has given me a freedom that I had never known to this point.

My Vo-Cal facilitator told me with confidence that he could probably help me sleep again. I was skeptical, I knew nothing about Remapping and had never really given any thought to the fact that my insomnia could be linked to a family pattern.

I was skeptical but hopeful. I did the generational map with him and insomnia had a extremely high connection to my grandfather who had died when I was a baby. I have one memory of him. I really couldn’t fathom how a grandfather that I never knew could possibly affect anything in my life. I worked on my grandfather and by the end of the session was able to clear him (Remapping lingo). I felt good, free, relaxed and happy. I left his office not knowing if it really did anything for me except help me relax. By 9:00 that night, I was tired, I laid down in my bed and I woke up in the morning! I was thrilled of course, felt like a million dollars in the morning and that skeptical side of me figured it was a one time thing. It wasn’t. To this day 3 years later, I can sleep when I’m tired. I can also work all night if I need to. I sleep normally. Oi! After a few days I realized I was still sleeping and it wasn’t a one shot deal and I called my facilitator back and made weekly appointments to see what else I could clear up in my life.

I have personally experienced many profound changes through my series of appointments. I finished my series and found other tools too help me keep growing and learning. Through the process of my growth, I have impacted those around me as a pebble tossed into water affects the whole body. My growth has instigated questions and helped my family to cast off patterns that don’t serve us as a unit or as individuals.

Back to the point though, I realize that in so many areas of my life, I didn’t really have full choice because I was simply choosing what I thought was the best option from the variety in front of me. I could not see what my blinders prevented me from seeing.

I imagine it as a buffet, I have lots of choices but they are all items that were placed before me. Out of the unlimited options that are possible in this world, I had access to about 60 choices.

I don’t make the mistake of blaming all of my faults on my ancestors, we are each accountable for our actions, I just take note of patterns that appear in my life over and over and I recognize through experience that a pattern I can’t seem to break using all the tools I know may not be something I have consciously chosen but something I have inherited.

Whether we like it or not, our ancestry is literally part of us. Whether we like it or not, much of the way we respond to people, events and thoughts is part of our DNA. It is part of our map. We can re-do our maps. It needs to be done at a subconscious level at an energetic emotional level. There are many people gifted in this type of work. If you are ready to get out of the buffet line and really have access to the unlimited abundance out there waiting for you, get yourself moving and find the help needed to get those blinders off. Choose freedom. It is a lifetime process not a destination.

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You Are Just a Big Baby! Embrace It!

susan taylor — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 15:08:58 +0000

I love babies. In case you were wondering. I love the way they bonk their little heads with their chew toys because they can’t find their drool-y little mouths. I love the way they move constantly, resisting everything all the time, building muscle every moment they are awake. I love the way when they fall or do something unexpected they stop, eyes big giant saucers as their eyebrows slowly scrunch and then they explode into tears and they vocalize their surprise/hurt. I love their infectious giggles, giant heads, cottage cheesy thighs, big round buddah bellies. I love the bed head when they wake up, the fact that they could have boogers and they throw up at the most inopportune times and then smile like they did the most amazing thing or they throw up and are completely oblivious.

MOST people would never think to chastise a baby for falling down and bonking their head. We would NEVER say: “You stupid little idiot, you deserved that, if you would pay more attention….or, maybe if you weren’t so fat you could stay upright….you can’t do anything right….give up ….don’t even try.” MOST people would comfort him, coo and feel his pain, bandage his little boo-boo’s and encourage him to try again giving him support and cheering him on.

How do you talk to yourself? Do you talk to yourself sweetly and patiently as you would a baby or do you blast “should’s” all over yourself? “You should be better, you shouldn’t be angry, you should…..”.

You are a baby, accept it and embrace it. Be patient with yourself, you are learning, you make mistakes, you must build your muscles to be able to do the hard things you feel inspired to do. Remember that everything you do is building muscles, even falling down and picking yourself back up. KNOW that you win even when you seem to lose or fail, all is as it should be. You are God’s little boy or girl. Trust the process and keep moving. Love yourself, speak kindly, nurture yourself, you are after-all, just a big baby! Embrace it!

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Rebel without a clue?

susan taylor — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 02:40:41 +0000

I am a rebel. I am a combination of rebel and sheep. Sounds completely contradictory but welcome to “me”. When I have passion and conviction about something…say…my children, I will go to great lengths to follow my convictions. David and I married and started our family in Downtown San Diego. We moved away 3 years ago to pursue our dream.

When our children began joining our family, we just could NOT send them to the schools at the time they were allotted to go, so we dabbled in schooling at home. We had so much fun, field trips, giant murals on the walls, learning to read, add, subtract, creating stories and plays, etc… As a family, our favorite subject was almost always a form of art, painting, construction, sculpture…. We still have family conversations about the giant wood and rebar dinosaur we never finished. We liked schooling at home so much we chose to continue, apparently, forever.

We got a lot of grief. Well meaning family and friends passionately tried to talk sense into us, these were people who loved us and didn’t want to see us make the most monumental mistake of our lives and consequently ruin our children. Neither David nor I have college educations, neither of us are trained teachers. These are good people who spoke from their hearts, they spoke from their understanding.

Resistance came in waves dependent on the milestones looming. It was not an easy choice both because of the work involved and because of my dual nature of sheep and rebel. Part of me just wanted to please people, follow the herd, another part is hell-bent set on doing what I perceive as right.

The end product of our educational rebellion remains to be seen. We have a 20 year old who actually won a scholarship and managed to be accepted into college and finish 2 1/2 years so far, our 19 year old is in Scotland serving a mission for our church and our 17 year old is still deciding what she will do. She has many options, it is exciting to us that she can see her many options, she is not limited by the direction of the crowd. The others are moving up through their milestones preparing to become evidence either to our folly or our brilliance (or more likely something in between).

My thought train has derailed slightly… this is about rebellion, not homeschooling. If we take another example of say… building styles, I am not so picky. I am perfectly happy choosing between the styles of houses that someone else designed and built. If it meets our needs, I don’t have to do it my own way. Cars and traffic laws are another example of just being able to go with the flow, public services, grocery stores, friendships. I can flow and be part of the happy whole. I don’t feel the need to redefine EVERYTHING, just some things.

Well, I find myself doing it again, gaining a passion for something that just goes against the grain of the society we live in. It isn’t immoral or illegal, it won’t rot anyone’s teeth. In fact I believe in my guts, it is the direction I need to go to improve the quality of life for people within my sphere of influence. I LOVE the fact that I can follow my conscience, I can do what I feel passionate about even when it goes against the “norm”. I am so grateful to have been born in this country at this time. I am so grateful for my forefathers and mothers that followed their conscience and created a foundation for me to choose to go with the flow or take another path.

Do you always go with the flow not thinking about the real impact of your actions? We are encouraged to just flow (imagine my hands making flowing gestures), just flow. It makes it easier for everyone if we will just “do our part”. Less worry for the parents, less paperwork for the government….Nobody has to do much independent thinking, we can all just…flow. Sometimes “going with the flow” is a good thing- but it is important to be consciously choosing to go with the flow and not just acting in default. Deliberately choosing our thoughts and our actions are vital to our true happiness. We can act in default and suffer fewer bruises than the next guy (the rebel) but true happiness, JOY even, comes from living consciously. It comes from being fully aware of our choices and living with enough conviction to accept the consequences.

I find myself far too often looking up from the lazy river I am drifting down and recognizing that some choices are now lost to me because I chose to not be AWARE of them until it was too late. There are still many opportunities coming up, I am still breathing, and I am choosing as of right now to live with my eyes and heart wide open. My goal is not rebellion it is awareness. My goal is to have the courage to take a different path if it is right for me and my family or to have the courage to go with the flow if that is the right choice.

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Emotional Re-Frame

susan taylor — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:28:10 +0000

I have been bothered by the idea of emotions being “bad”. Happiness and joy are good, sadness and depression are tolerated for a period of time and according to certain circumstances, fear is pitied or glorified, and anger is usually judged harshly. I know I am generalizing, bear with me. The world I’ve grown up in doesn’t honor or recognize emotions for the powerful tools that they are. If your emotions become your god or your weapon, they can hurt you and they can hurt those around you. If however your emotions are honored and acknowledged they can empower you AND empower those around you.

Working with clients one on one I see that in general we are not prepared as people to understand our emotions or how to deal with them. I have been seeking my own answers to understand myself and family better and also to better serve my clients. I’m going to take the next few blog entries to delve into this subject. I would love to get some discussion going. I’m a simple woman, I see in pictures, if I’m not painting the picture in a way that is understandable, please ask for clarification. By dialoging, we all learn.

Karla McLaren in her book “The Language of Emotions” says in regards to managing our emotions:

“Both repression and expression can be helpful to us in certain situations, but they cannot between them address every emotional situation we encounter. Take repression, for instance. When we’re infuriated at a baby, repressing the fury is a good idea-it’s never right to express fury toward a baby. But once we’ve repressed the fury and made the baby safe, we need to be able to address that fury in private, or it will rear its head once again, perhaps with more energy the next time. Because here’s the situation: emotions are always true-they always tell the truth about how we’re actually feeling- but they may not always be RIGHT or APPROPRIATE in each situation. Therefore, we have to learn how to understand, interpret, and work with them, and we must find the middle path between repression and improper expression. We must learn to honor and attend to our emotions in a deeper, more mature, and more evolved way. We must learn not to work AGAINST the emotions with repression or FOR the emotions with incompetent expression. We must learn to work WITH our emotions…..We can interpret the messages our emotions carry and make use of the instincts our emotions contain….When you channel your emotions, you’ll discover something most people don’t know, which is that each of your emotions contains vital skills and abilities that help you survive and thrive. your emotions don’t disappear when you’re not feeling them; instead, each of your emotions moves through you at all times, and each one endows you with specific gifts and abilities.”

Emotions are messages, if we ignore or stuff them we don’t get rid of the message we just “shoot the messenger”. Our subconscious has two choices, intensify the message and re-send or stuff it deep down within us. Karla says: “Now, that instinct (when repressed) will no longer be readable as itself-as fear or anger or despair-but it will still contain all its original intensity and information. Usually this squelched intensity mutates into something else, like tics, compulsions, psychosomatic illness, addictions, or neuroses.”

I have found this to be true. I have seen clients rid themselves of many disorders and pain as they release what they at one time stuffed because they did not know what else to do with.

I’m on a study and experiential experience to understand emotion, its role in our lives and how to use it to thrive!

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